Aug 24

Describing Myself

Siapa aku ??? Hmm…  yahoo personal describe me accurately…. Thanks to Raja Rafy for this (i know about yahoo personal from Raja Rafy’s blog)

Your Personality Type: Idealist

Opening the world to new possibilities

  • As an Idealist, your mission in life is to make the world a better place. You care about big ideas and big issues, but you’re also dedicated to the lives of the people around you.
  • In many ways, you’re the ideal friend or co-worker. You have great empathy skills. You give sound advice, but more importantly, you know when to just listen. At work, you’re a natural facilitator, motivator, and energizer. You have a gift for promoting harmony and cooperation at work. In fact, few things bother you more than conflicts at work.
  • Your hopes and dreams are very important to you, so you take other people’s dreams seriously, too. Your friends and family know they can come to you for a booster shot of support and optimism, whether it’s for pursuing their dream job or dream man or woman.
  • Most people have goals and dreams, but you’re more likely than most to actually achieve them. You have a clear idea of what you want in life. You anticipate and plan around obstacles, and you’re a sharp problem solver. Plus, it’s pretty darn hard to discourage you.
  • Idealists come in many varieties, from the academic to the pragmatic. You stand soundly in the middle. Only you know what you’ll do with your gifts. Ultimately, whether you touch the world, your community, or simply your closest friends and family—it’s Idealists like you that give us all the inspiration to dream and strive for something more.
What Sets You Apart?
  • You’re a people person. You’re energized by groups and social interaction.
  • You have a sophisticated way about you. You’re witty and savvy about how the world works.
  • You’re overly modest at times and tend to sell yourself short.
  • You have a witty, self-deprecating sense of humor.

How Many Men Are Like You?

This chart compares the percentage of men with your personality type, or a similar one, with men who have dissimilar or opposite personality types.
  • Exactly Like you (16%)
  • Very much like you (10%)
  • Similar (50%)
  • Dissimilar (6%)
  • Opposite (18%)

Your Love Style:Sensible

You’re looking to fall in love with a lifetime companion—someone who’ll share the good times and the bad.

  • You take love and commitment very seriously. To you, love is a partnership. It’s an extreme form of friendship. Dating gives you a chance to learn what you like and don’t like and who you would get along with best. However, once you know who you’re looking for, it’s a waste of time to pursue a relationship and risk falling in love with someone you know is incompatible.
  • Yours is the most practical and reasonable of the love styles. You don’t expect love at first sight. Liking someone is a good start, and as comfort and closeness grow, love can emerge. Of course, Sensible lovers have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out this way. When we “fall in” love, we “fall away” from the routines and rules that define our day-to-day lives. It’s this extraordinary emotion that motivates us to re-arrange our lives and priorities to incorporate someone else. Paradoxically, it’s the irrational part of love that helps us deal with all the pragmatic and logistical challenges of committing to someone.
  • Even after a passionate stretch, chances are your approach to love will return to a more Sensible style. Most lovers, regardless of how they start, evolve more into companions over time anyway. For now, your “style” of loving has these common features:
  • You’re most likely to fall in love with a woman who is independent by nature. She won’t expect to merge her life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you’re together.
  • Like the song says, “If you want to know if she loves you so, it’s in her kiss.” You want passionate kisses and won’t settle for anything less. The two of you will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn’t everything, but it’s a great way to connect body and soul with your partner.
  • Both partners have to decide when they’re ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you’ve been together.
Idealists in Love

Your Idealist personality clashes in many ways with your Sensible love style. Idealists are typically romantics at heart, but you take a more pragmatic approach to love. This may have been an evolution for you. Once you’ve had your heart broken, a straightforward approach to love and compatibility can make a lot of sense.

Good and Bad Fits
how much you love each other, but also the way the two of you love:

A man who values Sensible love, for example, will be most happy with women who share the same approach or who have a Destined love style.
However, you’d probably be frustrated trying to connect with women who seek Spontaneous or Passionate love, because they’re seeking a more casual relationship.

Love Styles

This chart shows the percentage of men your age within your love style.

Your Biggest Challenge Is:

How can you promote harmony and still allow healthy conflict?

  • Idealists go out of their way to promote harmony at work, in their families, and among their friends. You’re a natural peacemaker and take it upon yourself to mediate disputes. And whenever possible, you try to prevent them. On more than one occasion, you’ve probably asked: “Why can’t we all just get along?!”
  • Yet conflict doesn’t have to be destructive—there is such a thing as healthy conflict. Even heated exchanges can be useful as long as both of you play fair.
  • Part of your challenge is learning to tolerate uncertainty and being disliked. As a creative person, you know that some of your best ideas come after long periods of frustration and feeling “blocked.” You may find that some of your relationships are blocked as well, and require “creative conflict” to move forward.
  • Asking an Idealist and peacemaker to have more conflicts is admittedly ambitious. Still, one of your strengths is that you’re always open to new ideas and trying new things. In that spirit, here are some other areas you might want to improve:
    • You hate to be alone. Your challenge is learning the difference between solitude and loneliness. Try scheduling a “date” with yourself. Cook yourself dinner or order take-out and pick out a great movie to watch by yourself. When you spend all your free time with other people, you end up spending your time alone doing chores or dealing with problems. So you have to remind yourself what great company you can be.
    • You can be very demanding and difficult to be around at times. When people see you’re in an irritable mood, they probably head in the opposite direction. They know you’re ready to pick a fight. Your challenge is noticing when these moods hit you and learning how to keep your reactions in check or warn others to leave you alone for a while.
    • It’s easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols.